Lying to myself is over.

So I ended my marriage. I feel quite confident it was the correct decision. At first things were really bad and I thought perhaps I had made the wrong choice, but I understand now that it is much better to work on happiness alone rather than ignoring yourself because you have someone else. In the marriage I felt trapped. I get bored easily, I am highly motivated, and I don't like to be told what to do. I am not sure why I would have decided that getting married was a good idea in the first place, but I am guessing it had something to do with youth. No doubt I am still young, but I like to think that I have grown at least slightly from this experience. I now know that friends are transient, and if you do something that they disagree with, they are quick to flee. Through ending my marriage though I got to see characteristics of my soon ex that make it apparent why I would have wanted to end it. For one, I told him about possibly wanting a divorce and he flipped out, quit his job, and moved back to Michigan within three days. He never even tried to talk to me about it. Also he told me he wanted to murder me, and that his friend was going to kick my ass if she saw me, all of which were very mature. I was married to an unmotivated, dependent, manchild and it was doomed from the beginning. He also took just about everything of value that we (read as me since I bought them) owned including things that were mine alone like my iPod and DS. The worse part of all of this though is the fact that he took my cats. He never even wanted cats, and I am quite sure he did it just because he knew it would make me sad. He also decided to write status about our divorce on facebook after unfriending me but staying friends with all of my family members. They all got to read his rants about how I am cold and not even just cold, but the queen of cold, the Ice Queen!

What I have learned from all of this? When you get a bad feeling about someone early in the relationship, don't delude yourself in to thinking things will get better.