Tits or GTFO.

From the outrage discussed on this blog post about SERAM by Sharon Moss and Lyz Liddell you would think that as FEMALES were walking in to SERAM, the males were telling them tits or get the fuck out. As a female, I feel incredibly pissed, offended, cheapened, and annoyed by reading this post. I was at the SERAM, and I can't remember feeling objectified or put down as a female at any point during the weekend. SERAM was an amazing event, and to me it seems as if Sharon and Liz made the unorganized, mendacity of a blog post to bitch for the sake of bitching.

You may not be aware, but I moved to Alabama from Michigan about a year and a half ago. In Michigan I was an atheist but never felt the need to join organized atheism because in Michigan beliefs were treated like penises, you can have one and be proud of it, but don't take it out in public, and don't shove it down peoples throats. As soon as I moved to Alabama I realized things were a bit different. Here everyone wants to show you their penis, and they want to know all about yours too. (metaphorically) This made me feel the need to join organized atheism. I found the NAFA group and after being scared to go to anything for about four months (I am really shy), I finally went. I bring all this up because I had read whiney bitch posts like the one above previously, and I thought that free thought groups were full of sexism and that guys were constantly slapping the girls asses or something. After attending a few events, I realized that NAFA wasn't sexist at all (well beyond sarcastic sexism).

Now the post made about SERAM makes me question every single other feminist whiny post I have read in regards to atheism. I missed the local panel (To quote a fellow atheist, I was practicing my god given right to sleep in on Sundays) but from what I heard from everyone I talked to, the lady who freaked out about being called a female totally overreacted. I heard this account from about a 50-50 spread of males and females, so I tend to think it is accurate. As for what was said about Sean Faircloth's talk, the account in the blog (which now happens to be cut out) was entirely inaccurate. The talk was about empowering women. It talked about how sex is a good thing, and how your only rule should be "consenting adults". The million dollar challenge was also not sexist. It showed how women, due to evolution, are the gatekeepers when it comes to sex. Evolutionarily it makes more sense for guys to have sex with as many females as possible, whereas a female will look for someone who is both sexually attractive and who seems like they would make a good partner in child rearing. I mean this is not necessarily how things work now, (there are plenty of guys out there who are in committed monogamous relationships, and many girls ((me)) who have no interest in having children ever) but overall it is still how things tend to happen. Sean was trying to point out that if a guy is determined to have sex with a random stranger by midnight, it probably won't happen, but if a girl wants to, she can probably make it happen. If anything, I think this is offensive to men, (apparently men can't control their dicks?) but some people feel like it was objectifying women because men might think about having sex with them. I am sure some guys did look around, pick a girl, and say, "I would try to sleep with that girl", but I can tell you that when Sean asked the same question of girls, I too looked around and picked at least three guys I think I would have been able to sleep with. Does this make me sexist? I HOPE SO!

Basically, the post about sexism at SERAM made it hard for me to even think straight. I really just wanted to post really obnoxious sexist comments to start a flame war because I was so full of anger. If you want to complain, get something fucking real to complain about. Shut the FUCK UP about your poor feminist morals being offended. If you want to get rid of sexism in atheism (though now I question on whether it is even there at all) start respecting yourself, and stop posting ignorant shit where you sound like a whiny 13 year old, then maybe people will treat you as an equal.


nicole.